Exploring the Meaning of “God Helps Those Who Help Themselves”

This month, we’ve been diving deep into different forms of love, particularly self-love. In a previous post, we discussed how being single can be a unique opportunity to foster a deeper relationship with yourself. The mental health benefits of self-love are immense, and today, I want to explore those further. But first, I’d like to share an inspiring quote I heard recently on one of my favorite podcasts, The Ultimate Human by Gary Brecka.
During an episode featuring professional heavyweight boxer and entrepreneur Mike Rashid, the two men discussed the importance of physical and mental strength, and this powerful quote came up: “God helps those who help themselves.”
But what does it really mean to “help yourself”? Even if you don’t believe in God or a higher power, this phrase still holds profound significance. For me, as someone who believes in God, I view it as a reminder that we must take initiative in our own lives and do our part to create the life we desire. God wants us to live the best lives possible, making the most of our one chance on this earth.
So, how do we live our best life? It starts with self-love. When you love yourself, you no longer feel the need to seek constant validation from others. Instead, you surround yourself with positive, supportive people who match the energy and love you already have for yourself. It’s about setting healthy boundaries and recognizing that you deserve the best.
Let’s break this down further. How can you “help yourself” to maximize your life? Does helping yourself also mean practicing self-love? I believe it does.

4 Ways to Love Yourself and Help Yourself

1. Love Your Body
This doesn’t mean adhering to body standards dictated by society. Instead, it’s about showing your body love through healthy habits. Drink plenty of water, exercise regularly, prioritize sleep, and practice mindfulness. These actions show you care for your physical well-being and value your body as a vital part of your life journey.
2. Be Accountable for Your Feelings
Getting to know yourself is key to personal growth. Take the time to reflect on your feelings and understand what they mean. We often distract ourselves with tasks to avoid confronting our emotions, but when you acknowledge and process your feelings, you can take steps to improve and evolve into the best version of yourself.
3. Cut Out Negative Influences
I know this might sound harsh, but it’s essential: the people you surround yourself with shape who you are. If you want to grow and become the best version of yourself, it’s crucial to align yourself with individuals who inspire you and embody the life you want. Distance yourself from those who bring negativity into your life.
4. Speak to Yourself Like a Friend
We can be our own harshest critics. Often, we say things to ourselves that we’d never say to a loved one. Practice self-compassion by replacing negative self-talk with affirmations and gentle encouragement. Speak to yourself with kindness and understanding, just as you would speak to a dear friend or family member.

At the end of the day, you only have one life to live. Make each moment count by treating yourself with love, respect, and care. You don’t need to be perfectly confident to practice self-love or to be loved by others, but by nurturing your self-worth, you create healthier, more fulfilling relationships. The more you help yourself—physically, emotionally, and mentally—the more you’ll experience the joy and success you deserve.